Parenting is a journey..... Basic ingredients

Parenting is a journey....holding multiple folds and every fold has its own perspective and philosophy

The language of parenting carries multiple layers and it is used to represent the character who is taking care of a child, that might be a guardian, custodian, caregiver or caretaker, single parent, or both parents. So the word parenting symbolizes the connection between a child and a parent in the form of guardian or caretaker or biological parents. 

The parenting journey has multiple connotations and intents whereas some required components will make this journey hassle-free, smooth, pleasurable, enjoyable, and satisfying, in the end, every caregiver and guardian needs that peace of mind. Here are some basic approaches to heed mindfully

Effective communication: 

Communication is the key to every connection including the relationship with your children. Communication has numerous pieces /components and manifestations i.e. listening, speaking, and body language. If all pieces are put together, communication might be effective and promote a healthy relationship between a caregiver and a child

Talking or speaking itself has numerous expressions including what/how to initiate conversation, it has many layers and these layers have a significant impact on a child's mental and emotional development. Components are:  

listening: Adequate listening offers a vision to the spokesperson for being heard properly and that vision promotes or strengthens the relationship between caregiver and a child. Anyway, keep in mind while listening to your child:

• Be genuine 

• Maintain eye contact 

• Managing facial expressions 

• Minimizing physical distance

• Do not entertain any other activity

• Concentrate on whatever is being expressed

Adapt listening mood/attitude, gazing into eyes, paying attention, and responding accordingly. This mindset and attitude will facilitate a healthy connection between caregiver and a child and fulfillment of the need of being listened to or heard adequately

Speaking: Here comes the story!

• Scenario or situation truly counts, for instance, the exact sentence carrying a distinct result, if communicated in the playground or at home or while roaming around the community. So be mindful regarding the scenario while speaking to your kid (you can conduct an experiment and have your own discovery)

• The subject or matter you are about to discuss with the child has its own significance, although you have to be mindful to understand the remaining aspects of speaking

• The sentence phrasing and language itself contain many expressions and coatings including vocabulary and wording you picked for communication. Be aware of the selection of vocabulary, always use high-frequency or high energy or high vibrating words or vocabulary, it does not only bring positive energy but also keeps your child's morale high. For instance, interpret these five sentences and it impacts your child's well being 

• You are a good girl 
•  You are a smart girl
•  You are a competent girl
•  You are a brilliant girl
• On many occasions, I discovered that you are a thoughtful and considerate girl

Can you see the difference between all five-sentences phrasing and their vocabulary? Do you think that selection of vocabulary has an impact on your child's emotional and behavioural well-being? Do you think that vocabulary really matters?

• The tone or the pitch of your voice has a mark on your listener, for instance, you are loud, noisy, yelling, shouting, screaming, or articulating softly or holding a tone in a sweet manner, all these styles/tones will retain their own influence on your listener. If you articulate softly and have a sweet tone instead of yelling or being loud, do you think that can make a huge difference? or what is being said and what is being heard?

😊Take your own example, you always enjoy those individuals who maintain a soft/gentle or sweet tone, you always find charisma in their communication and you try to avoid those who always scream, cry or have a critical approach. Think about it!

• How to wrap up a conversation while speaking to your kid? it has a long-lasting impact on the well-being of your child given the fact that the child will carry or absorb that energy and will continue the rest of the day or time with that punch or hit. Always wrapping up with high frequency or high energy sentences, maybe your child is heading to school or moving to the bed for a sound sleep or study or going to work on any assignment. Do you believe that your way of wrapping up communication might carry an impact on the subsequent activity your child is about to get involved in?? Think about it!

Insight 👀

• listening to the parents or caregivers: Nowadays you can listen from parents or caregivers that children do not listen to them or do not pay attention to what is being spoken to them

• Rationale: The reason for the above complaint, as a matter of fact, parents did not realize the significance of listening, so the children did not learn the proper attitude or listening skills from their parents (sorry to say). When they were young, parents did not listen to them properly or missed that listening opportunity 

It was mentioned earlier how much listening and speaking attitude from a communication perspective is important for a child well being and healthy behaviour as well as it has the most significant impact on their life

Topic to be continued......
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