Parenting is a journey.....basic ingredients👪
Effective communication
1. Body language or non-verbal behaviour: Body language carries an influential impact during communication particularly facial expression and gesture. Be mindful of non-verbal behaviour while talking to your children, it has a long-lasting impact on their character building. The way you move your hand or finger, rolling your eyes, shaking your head, shrugging your shoulder, what posture you are in, and the most meaningful and influential is your facial expression
Insight 👀- your child is briefing you something serious and you have no facial expression or eye contact or with indifferent gesture
- your child is telling you something funny, but you are looking somewhere or having a serious facial expression
- your child is sharing something but you are in a hurry or even busy thinking something else
- your child expressing some negative emotions but you are not addressing it adequately or not meeting that need on time by showing non-verbal support or gesture
- your child is sharing a secret but you start rolling up your eyes or start shouting or yelling
Ask these questions to yourself.
- Do you consider that these expressions are meaningful or facilitate a healthy development or an optimistic state of intellect?
- What sort of fulfillment your child is carrying or what kind of frame of mind a child is up to?
Food for thought Have you ever consider that as a parent, what type of body language you like whenever you meet your friends or colleague or relative? This perspective will give you insight and highlight the importance of non-verbal behaviour or communication while speaking to your child
2. Acceptance: Whatever is your child discussing with you or sharing, you have to accept it instead of rejecting it. That's the key to minimizing the communication gap. A child is more open up if being accepted by their parents. Food for thought: A child is always accepted by their friends or peer and as a parent, you always wonder about peer pressure or influence because you as a parent do not accept the feelings and emotions of a child
3. Unconditional regard: Always love your child unconditionally. Never and ever impose any condition for acceptance, for instance
- whenever you follow my command, I respect you
- or I appreciate you if you keep silent
This way actually you are teaching a child that love is conditional. As a human being, we all need unconditional love and acceptance. What if a child reflects that condition on you?
Food for thought, a child is always unconditionally accepted by their friends or peer, that's why parents are some times incapable to manage peer pressure and complain
4. Identify triggers: As a parent or guardian, it is your responsibility to understand and respond according to the feelings and emotional state of your child. That's the cue you need to address carefully.
Insight 👀: For instance, a child is crying, sad or silent or emotionally disturbed, as a parent it is your understanding and assessment then respond accordingly
5. Validate feelings and emotions: This is genuinely important, given the fact that as an adult, we also need assurance from other people. It gives an idea that someone understands feelings and emotions, on the other hand, it leads to satisfaction and strengthen relationship. For instance, if you just add these comments during a conversation
- I can understand your feelings
- I know what you mean by that
- I am delighted that you are sharing this
- I am satisfied, the way you explain this.......
6. Reflect on your child's strengths: Whenever your child is conversing to you, find something complimentary and reflect on it. It will boost self-esteem and confidence. Be optimistic. For instance
- I know you are trying hard
- I noticed that you try to complete assignments on time
- You are such an impressive child
- You always respect people around you
7. Be present with the child: Be mindful while talking to your child, maintaining eye contact and always has a welcoming gesture. Be present with the present moment and respond accordingly
There are four crucial timings of your child and it has to be handled carefully
1. Morning time: It's a time when a child transitions from one state of mind to another and need to be handled carefully or mindfully. For instance
- How do you wake your child up?
- How do you greet him/her?
- How is your mood at that time?
- What kind of rituals you follow?
- What type of communication you do?
- What sort of interaction you are up to?
You need to ask these questions to yourself and figure out the most pleasing way to welcome from sleep to wakening state of mind. Do you think, it can make a difference in your child's emotional health.
A hint can be given to you:
"Take a deep breath, with a positive state of mind, maintain a pleasant mood and having a smile on your face. Now you are ready to wake your child up"
2. School time: It is even a delicate time to handle carefully when a child going to school. As a guardian/parent, you set the tone for the rest of the day through your behaviour and gesture. What if a child carries a sad mood or moaning, not speaking or listening state of mind and going to school? Do you consider that a child can concentrate or focus on learning? Think wisely
3. Back home: It has its own significance because your child coming back with lot of knowledge and holding something to share with you. For instance,
- What if you are busy at that moment?
- What if you are exhausted and having no stamina left?
- Or you are busy watching TV or over the smart phone?
- What if you are not at home?
A hint is given to you!
"Always get ready to welcome your child, dress up adequately, tie your hair, and unengaged your self with any other activity, or eat something for good stamina and feel fresh. Now you are ready to meet and greet your child"
Do you believe that it can make a difference? Think wisely
4. Bedtime: It is the crucial moment and retaining long lasting influence in the development of nature and character building. Whatever emotional state your child at the time of sleeping may stay longer. So be mindful at this time. At this point, as a parent, you can easily understand and figure it out the best way for your child emotional and psychological well being
Parenting is a journey..... the motto of this sequel to guide and support the parents' community around the world and make their parenting journey hassle-free and enjoyable. If you have any question or concern, please feel free to ask or comment below
That's true we have to consider When children's emotional development is nurtured and reinforced, they're more likely to feel good about themselves. And, those positive feelings are enabling, so kids can focus more fully on learning, interacting, creating, and succeeding .
ReplyDeleteThat's awesome understanding. It seems that you always focus and concentrate their emotions and feelings
DeleteThat's very good idea & really help to understand the sentiment of the childerns keep posting such helpful ideas
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DeleteI really appreciate your comment and understanding
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